Relationships are Hard

Being in a relationship is so rewarding but is also equally as challenging. For every good moment, there’s another challenge on the way to overcome. Healthy relationships are never perfect.

I’ve learned so much from my current relationship and it’s really showed me that it requires a ton of effort, communication, and forgiveness. You both really need to have a clear understanding of each other for it to work. I've learned that arguing is inevitable, however, it does not mean that it's pushing us closer to breaking up. Just because there was some miscommunication, I am still just as loved and cared for as I was before the argument. That's something I've always struggled with. I try to avoid conflict and sharing my feelings at all costs. I'm always worried it will put a dent in the relationship, making us closer and closer to breaking up. But, with the right amount of reassurance, I've learned that sharing my feelings will never make our relationship suffer. I am able to openly communicate what is on my mind so my partner and I can work to resolve it. Having the space to communicate like that is so important.

Forgiveness is a huge part of making a relationship work. It's inevitable that your partner will hurt you and disappoint you. It's up to you to decide if you can forgive them and move past it. Forgiveness is not easy, either. If you're hurt enough, it can take forever to move past certain things. It requires a lot of effort to get the relationship back intact, and even then, some things will still be in the back of your mind forever. Moving on is extremely difficult, but doable. On the other hand, if you have been hurt a lot by someone and they don't show remorse and willingness to change, it is likely that they will continue to hurt you. Do not stay in a relationship that only drains your energy. It will only ruin you more in the end.

With that being said, strive to make your relationships as healthy as possible. Do not settle for less, and do not allow toxic people to stay in your life and make you suffer. As long as you allow it to, the universe will provide you with the people that are meant for you. You will not have to fight for love. Knowing that should bring you so much peace.

-Ash