Life Advice #1 - Boundaries and Relationships

Life has been a roller coaster lately. I've been dealing with so much and it just keeps piling up more and more. Work has been stressful lately and I'm starting to become unhappy with it. My relationship is rocky and it's been hard to deal with it. I've been feeling so disconnected from my soul lately, and I just haven't been feeling like myself. I don't really do the things I love as much anymore and I know I need to start taking more time for myself.

I have a history of letting people walk all over me, in friendships and relationships. It’s something I’m still working on, but I’m getting better at setting boundaries and saying no to things I don’t want to do. I still struggle with forgiving too much, but I do believe people deserve second chances. No one is perfect. However, I‘ve put my foot down and have decided that people only deserve so many chances before you just need to let go and walk away. If behaviors continue and there’s no willingness to change and no signs of growth, I’ve learned that I need to move on. I will not allow someone to make me feel like I deserve nothing. I will not allow someone to ruin the self-worth and growth I’ve created all on my own.

I know now that I deserve to surround myself with people who can reciprocate the love that I give to others. I deserve people who bring me peace, not chaos. I deserve an endless amount of appreciation and admiration. I deserve someone who will see me as someone they would never want to lose.

I‘m in a sticky situation currently with someone I love deeply. This person is going through a lot and has a lot of issues they need to work through. I believe in forgiveness and change. I believe that people can make mistakes and want to fix them. But I also believe that you can’t force people to change for you and you can’t save them from themselves. Either they stick to their word and they put in the effort to do and be better, or you just need to let them go. Sometimes letting go is the best option, as it will help you and the other person grow. Love is not enough to keep a relationship from falling apart. Both partners need to be willing to put in a substantial amount of effort.

I know that I can give great relationship advice and deep down I know the things that I should do to keep myself and my relationships happy and healthy, but I will admit that I don’t always follow my own advice. I struggle quite a bit with doing the right thing, or what I believe is the right thing. I want things to work out how I imagine them in my head, although I know that won’t always be the case. But, I‘m trying and i’m getting better at putting myself first every day.

All i can do now is continue to strive to be the best version of myself and take care of my soul and energy. That’s all that really matters.